Sunday, December 13, 2015

Welcome To The World, Baby Girl !

It has been more than a month and I have yet to update baby Zayra's delivery experience. Yeap, I now am a mother and her name is Zayra Aisha.

Zayra's due date was on the 2nd of November. I started my maternity leave 2 weeks earlier because I was just too tired to wake up in the morning to get ready for work. Tired. Heh ! I did not know tired then. So anyways, I spent my days doing all the activities that could induce labor. Squats, jumping, dancing, walking. To no avail, baby decided to stay longer.

On the 10th, Deepavali day, I went for a checkup. By then I was already 8 days post due. The plan was to induce the next day but the checkup did not look good. My amniotic fluid was lacking. Had a deal with the doctor to come back in the evening for the induction.

We went back to UMSC at 6pm and I was induced at 7pm. Then I had to lie down for an hour. The nurse came to do the ctg around 8ish. I only felt like my usual period cramps during the ctg. I thought they were contraction but apparently not. So while I was playing with my phone, I saw the heart rate reading of the baby dropping. It was supposed to be between 140-160. It was 90.

Panicked, I called the nurse. I tried to calm myself down by thinking that the sensor moved, or the baby moved away. The nurse wasn't sure so she called the doctor.

The doctor came and again the reading dropped. She suggested c-section but I hesitated. While we were discussing, baby's heart rate dropped again. Then I saw it was only 8. No arguments from anybody. Off to the operating room we go.

I obviously panicked. I've never done any operation before and so freaking worried that I might lose our baby. With baby in mind, I surrendered. Needles in, tubes in. Whatever. Scared ? Just take a deep breath and think positive. I trusted my doctor and she assured me,"Don't worry. I'm here. I will make sure the baby is safe". Dr Aizura together with the anaesthetist, I relaxed a lil. I believed that they know what they are doing. Whatever is gonna happen is fated.

After about 10 minutes and a hole in my stomach, I heard baby's crying. Very soft though. So I asked, is that my baby ? "Yes but the nurse is bringing her to the paeds and clean her up. She pooped inside"

I smiled. I was super relieved. My baby is okay. She's fine. That's all that matters.

If I had been stubborn and postponed the induction, things might have worked out differently. Everytime I think of that, I break down. I am super grateful to Allah for this gift. She is just too precious to us. Zayra Aisha, I hope you know that.

Few things you need to know about c-section:
1) To get the baby out is fast but to clean you up and close everything will take awhile. Total maybe 45 mins ?

2) Only the bottom down of your body will be numb. You can feel pressure but no pain. After awhile, you won't feel your legs at all. Don't panic like how I was.

3) You will be shivering. Hard. It will be awhile. Just imagine you're somewhere hot and relax. It will go away. After an hour or so.

4) To get up after the operation is hell ! But you have to. And stand straight when you walk. Bending will make it even more painful.

5) The pain of the scar will be gone in 2-3 weeks so be patient. Just turn to your side when you are lying down or getting up.

That's all from me. Till then !

Thursday, October 15, 2015

Pink Lemonade Baby Shower

"Pink Lemonade"

That was the theme.

Weeks before the shower, my sister told me that the theme was going to be "The Kardashian" *shriek!* Then she mentioned to me not to tell Alea that she told me, one of my bffs also one of the party organizer. *heart drops* I learned from the past not to believe everything my sister says but..I don't know. WHY THE HECK WOULD ANYONE THINK THAT THAT WOULD BE A GOOD THEME ? A Kardashian baby. Oh em gee, please NO !

Okay. Enough drama. 

I was super relieved when I stepped into The Picnic Table in Kota Damansara and I see nothing with The Kardashian theme. Instead, I was welcomed with a very pretty picnic-like ambience, very colourful with pink and yellow as the main theme. It was BEAUTIFUL ! I loved it ! 

The girls were dressed up in pink and the boys were dressed up in yellow. My close friends and family were there with a few exceptions.

It was a very sweet gesture from my friends as I have been asking them for a picnic at the park but thanks to the haze, we never did it. So I'm happy that we could do it indoor and the buffet spread by The Picnic Table was superb ! The owner was a Sri Amanian, I heard. Not bad, girl !

So here, I wanna thank my friends and family for the time taken to organize and attending the shower. I appreciate every bit of it and baby ZA thanks everybody for the lovely gifts.

Now let the pictures do the talking!

















Dear baby girl, as I'm writing this you are now 38 weeks young in my tummy. If you ever read this, I want you to know that your Daddy and I are excited to meet you. We love you although we have not met you. You make me smile every time you move, kick, punch or hiccup. At one point of time, you started kicking every time you hear daddy's car at the gate every night. That was cute. My hope for you is that you will excel in everything that you put your hands on. I pray that you will be high-spirited and that you will not give up in anything that you do, till you succeed. I pray that you will always feel loved and never lonely. Know that you have me to confide in. No matter what the issue is at hand.  I don't know how the future is going to turn out, but know this, I love you and always will love you. 

Thursday, October 8, 2015

Are you excited ?

I have decided that I don't like that question. It's because I always end up answering,"ermm..I'm nervous!"

Seriously, do you expect a NO for that question ? No, I'm not excited to meet my baby. No, I'm not excited that my life is going to change forever.

Of course not ! I want this baby ! I have secretly been wanting a baby even before I got married. So YES I am excited ! I smile when I feel the baby moves inside me. I get super excited when baby decides to respond to our conversation before bed with her by doing somersaults inside. I imagine her in my arms like all the time.

But on top of all the excitement, other feelings come into play. I'm scared for the delivery process. I'm scared that I might not know how to soothe my crying baby. I'm scared for the baby's future. I'm scared that she will turn out a horrible person because I do not know how to be a good mother.

I'm scared of many things. So please excuse me when I reply with an "ermm" when I get asked "Are you excited?"

Wednesday, September 30, 2015

The final weeks

After I got admitted into PPUM, we kinda decided to deliver at PPUM because it’s way cheaper. Then I started imagining being in pain alone without my husband. I don’t think I can go through that so I told my husband. I am so grateful to have an understanding husband. So we changed our decision, again, to UMSC.

My original doctor, Dr Nuguelis, is away for Hajj so I met with Dr Aizura. I like her. She’s like a friend. Chilled and relaxed. I guess I’ve found the doctor I wanna deliver with. Like finally. After almost 36 weeks. Woi, gila last minute kau ni. However, the bill for the check-up stressed me out. Almost RM500. It includes a few procedures though but still. Everything is chargeable. Just like Air Asia.

That’s not what I wanna talk about though. I wanna talk about our baby. It has been almost 2 months since the last scan. I miss looking at our baby so much. So we did the scan at UMSC and oh how our baby has grown! Weighing at 2.2kg now. It makes me feel so excited! Yes, I am still scared for the delivery process but thinking that I get to meet our bundle of joy very soon makes me wanna deliver NOW! Haha okay. Maybe not now. I don’t want the baby to go through any breathing difficulties due to pre-term.

I so want the baby to be delivered in November (coz November is awesome) but I don’t think I can wait that long. I’m taking my maternity leave 2 weeks earlier so I’m gonna get reallll active. One of my activities will be dancing. Yup, dancing. I hope the haze would clear off soon. I need to visit the park.

Please do pray for a smooth delivery and the health of the baby and mother. Thank you.

Dear baby,

Mummy and daddy are excited to meet you but do take your time and come out when you are ready. Anytime you are ready, we will be prepared for you. We love you.


#35weeks4days

Monday, August 24, 2015

Preparation Of The Arrival Of The Lil One

So since last week I had a week off of work, I decided to clean the room and prepare for the arrival of the lil one. I always thought I'm the strong kind but I had to sit down every 10 minutes when cleaning the husband's cupboard. 7 months and counting y'all.

Visited Ikea to get some wall shelves and a bookshelf. Managed to create a bit more space, like finally ! Wall shelves and the TV will be drilled on Wednesday. The TV cabinet will be sold off to make way for the side baby bed which I have ordered last week. Yes ! We're co-sleeping ! The side bed is only RM360 including postage and the mattress. It will arrive by end of September, fingers crossed ! So baby, please don't come out early okay. Your bed is not ready.

I gotta order the comforter set which will take at least a month as well.

On Saturday, Jeff and I went to the TCE baby expo at SACC. If it was up to me, I wouldn't have bought anything. Once Jeff said the magic words,"Take what you want", all bets are off ! haha ! We brought back bags of goods ! I would say 75% of the list is cleared.

Also, we received some gifts from my cousin, Nana, and SIL, Zarrin. Too cute but I couldn't share them with you :P

 Since the list is confusing me, I'm gonna list down here what I still need:
- Clothes (3m onwards)
- Swaddle
- Handkerchiefs
- Baby towels
- Baby rash cream (I wanted Drapolene but I think I'm going to change to the oil by Tropika)
- Comforter set by Kekabu Bayiku
I want this design
- Thermometer
- Nasal aspirator
- Diaper bag (XL Papa Shield Diaper Bag)
- Lotion for sore nipples
- Cotton wool/pad
- Cloth diapers

That's it I think.

Monday, August 17, 2015

Bleeding At 28 Weeks

What I posted on social media - I was put to bed rest because I am too active. For those who have been pregnant, they are pretty skeptical. Being active is better for delivery.

So on Friday morning, I told my boss I am taking medical leave because I felt tired. I went back to sleep and at 10.30am, I woke up after the husband asked for breakfast. I stood up and my pants were wet. I touched it and to my surprise - blood. Fresh red blood. I looked at my pants and it was full of blood. Went to pee and I was still bleeding. Obviously I panicked. Got ready and went straight to the hospital. I cried for awhile but I got myself together. Good thing it happened when Jeff was still at home.

So when I reached UMSC Dr Nuguelis checked my blood pressure, did speculum checking, CTG and an ultra-sound. She told me I am bleeding too early so she needs to refer me to UMMC. She wrote a note that they need to do a scan again.

I was admitted at the labor ward. For the first time in my whole life, I had to go through the hospital procedure. They took my blood and inserted the baseline for drips. It is still there even after 4 days. It's annoying as hell. It was painful but nothing I can't handle.

Then came the injection. In case my baby comes out prematurely. I don't know what it's called but I heard them saying Dacsa. Or something like that. The nurse didn't lie. It was painful as hell. But I didn't cry. They had to give 2 dosage with 12 hours apart. I was anxious waiting for the second dose but it was not as bad as the first.

The scanning department closed early so they could not slot me in so they did a bed side scan. And then the doctor said it. Placenta previa. They put it as major. And they told me that I will have to stay until I deliver. Shocking, yes. My heart dropped. Oh and baby was breeching at the time.

I was transferred to the normal ward that night but I did not have my phone with me. I sure as hell miss my husband so much at times like this. So I pass my time by crying. Homesick.

When I got my phone the next day, I spent my free time listening to the Rainbow Relaxation Video that I learned in hypnobirthing. Then I visualized the baby turned to the right position, baby throwing the placenta up and a few other images that involved the placenta and the baby. The key was to remain calm.

With Allah's will, the scan this morning gave me good news. Baby's head is at the bottom and placenta is not lying low. Alhamdulillah. Now I am just waiting for doctor's update which I don't think is gonna happen today. One more night in the hospital I guess. I'm calmer now knowing that baby is fine but I still need the doctor to confirm so that I will feel completely at ease.

So that's my pregnancy story. Please put us in your prayers. Much love !

Ps: Please pardon my medical jargon.

Tuesday, August 4, 2015

The Lie Your Ex Told You

Another topic from Mix FM. I'll give a few.

Scenario 1:
My ex sent me to work (One Utama). He came down with me so we parked the car. When he came to pick me up. His eyes were red.

Lie 1 : My eyes got stung by the bee.
Fact: Nope. He was high on something.

So we went down to get the car and to my surprise, the car was at the same exact spot. I was like "Wow ! You got the same parking spot!"

Lie 2 : Yeah. I'm good like that. Eh, are the car keys with you ? 
Fact : A girl picked him up.

Scenario 2:
We were hanging out with friends and the friend was "smoking" and passed it to him.

Lie 3: I don't smoke.
Friend : Oh yeah. I forgot.

I didn't get it until we broke up.

Scenario 3:

Me: I need you. Can you come over ?
Lie 4: Oh I gotta help my mother clean the house.
Fact: He went out with his friends until 2-3 in the morning.

Scenario 4:

This happened when FB was new. I was exploring FB and stumbled upon my ex's FB page which I didn't know he had. Saw many pictures of clubbing nights with some girls.

Thanks to FB, if not I would not have known.

Let's say that is Lie #5.

Scenario 5:

My ex left his FB open. Big mistake. Found many chat messages with different girls. Flirting, tryna have a cyber sex,etc. I saw one where he gave his home address.

Lie 6: I was just testing her.

MY ASS !

Scenario 6:

The ultimate lie

My ex borrowed my car to go clubbing with his friends.

Lie 7: Didn't bring me because he said it's boys night out.

A friend told me that another girl posted a status saying that she had a damn good night with a few boys. My ex included.

Told him before that I need to use the car at 10 am but he didn't return until 12pm. So I asked him why was he late and why didn't he pick up my call.

Lie 8: Oh I had to send my friends back home - Which could be true but maybe only at 10 that morning. He was supposed to send back the car way before.

And on the reason why he didn't pick up my call - "Because I know you're gonna act crazy like this"

Asshole.

Above are lies from different people. I have many more but I can't recall. It's all in the past now.


Sunday, August 2, 2015

What You See In The Mirror

What do you see when you look at yourself in the mirror?

Little kid:
Nobody really likes me. I'm not cute like my little sister. I'm scrawny and dark. Everybody prefers my littler sister to me. She's the cute one. She's the one with nice voice when reciting the Quran.

Teenager:
No boys like me. Everybody else has a boyfriend but not me. The boys that I like won't even look at me. I don't have fair skin. Boys love fair skin girls. If only I had fair skin.

Early 20's:
I am awesome. Yeap, I am. I'm having the time of my life. The world is my oyster ! Who cares about slim, fair-skin girls ? I AM BEAUTIFUL ! I'm different. I'm not typical. I love how I look and I love my free life.

At 30:
I am a failure. I've failed the baby inside of me. I wasted so many years and now I don't see my future progressing. But no, I will not give up. The baby is inside me. I don't want to teach my baby that. I have to be the best version of myself. I can't fail my baby, again.

The answer to MIX FM's question this morning; what do you see in the mirror ?

Wednesday, July 29, 2015

Things To Do This Weekend

Alhamdulillah July is ending ! This means my bank account will be replenished very soon and I could breathe again !

Things to do this weekend:

1) Buy a sewing machine from Lazada
2) Buy materials for my first sewing project: Maternity Pillow. Things include; cotton fabric and kekabu. What's kekabu in English ?
3) Look for plastic packaging for our Brownies project.
4) 2 "makan raya" events to attend.
5) Order baby's cute stuff online. Yesss shopping !

Wednesday, July 8, 2015

My Fear of Labor

A few people say if you are scared of giving birth then do not get pregnant. Well, I am scared as hell of labor but I've always wanted a child of my own. So when I got married, I never gave labor much thought. Every month I will expect my menses to not appear and give me the good news.

The 3rd month after I got married, we got the good news. Despite the original plan of having a child only a year after :P

But now, all I can think about is labor. Not just the pain, the possible complications that comes with labor as well. I try to cheer myself with the fact that I will be rewarded with martyr if I were to go any time between labor and 40 days after but the thought of leaving my husband and my beautiful child is too heartbreaking.

Then comes the pain. I am scared that I can't handle the pain. Sure there is an alternative => epidural. With all the scary stories that have surfaced lately, forget it. Besides, I am scared of needles too. The image below makes me wanna puke so yeah, FORGET IT.

I actually wonder if period pain is about the same as labor pain because my period pain is hell. If it's the same, although it's hell, at least I know how to handle it. 

I have been taking hypnobirthing classes with a practitioner named Ayuni. I will review the classes in next post (maybe) but 1 thing I must say, it has helped me a bit to calm my nerves down. So I guess I just gotta practice and think of happy thoughts. All fear out the window and believe in Allah. He knows best.

Easier said than done. Pray for me okay, dear friends?

Wednesday, July 1, 2015

Life is so stressful

Here is my rant for the day.

I've stopped using my Maybank account for awhile due to my standing order with Maybank Hire Purchase. They've deducted my car loan instalment twice in a month. Then the next month, they deduct again because they did not update the system.

For some people, the amount is nothing. For me, 568 is critical.

So then my office started to use CIMB as the salary account so everything was fine until I got transferred to another company. They will bank in the cheque into the Maybank account as it is near to the office. To my surprise, my account is blocked. Why ?

So I called the customer service. They asked me to go to ANY branch to check. So I walked under the sun, still feeling fine, to the one near my office. They said they can't check. Need to check with customer service -_- A lil' annoyed. I said I already called customer service.

So they gave me my home branch contact number. I called both the numbers for 2 hours, nobody picked up. So I went on the website, used the contact number they labelled as "Manager" then only somebody picked up. The savings accounts officer was busy so whoever that picked up the phone said she will leave a message. She was nice.

Then Ms Ho called me but she annoyed me. She said it's because of my car loan. Ok fine. Then I said if it's possible to remove the tagging so that I can pay the loan. She said no, I need to call Maybank Auto Finance. I told her I don't remember which branch so can you check for me in the system or something.

Ms Ho : NO I CAN'T HELP YOU. The system doesn't have this info.
Me : Then how am I going to check ?
Ms Ho : I don't know. You can check your grant or something.

THIS ANNOYED ME TO THE MAXIMUM. Blame my pregnancy hormone.

Me: Then how am I supposed to check ? I don't have the grant.

She gave me a number which again NOBODY freaking picked up. Then I remembered I received a message on the car loan so I called the number.

At today's date, my outstanding is 1.8 month. So usually I would pay 1 month which will make it 0.8 month outstanding. On the 15th, it will become 1.8 month again. As far as I know they can only block when it's 3 months outstanding.

Whatever.

I asked how to reactivate my account. They said they will need to deduct the whole outstanding amount. I asked if I can negotiate to deduct only 1 month but she kept saying no because then my outstanding will become 3 months. I argued. But no point arguing because it was like speaking to a loyar. Loyar buruk.

She said that I could send in a letter and she will ask her manager but trust me, her tone made me imagine punching her in her guts.

By then I was literally crying on the phone. I couldn't control my emotion. I was so angry and stressed that I couldn't stop the tears. Pregnancy hormones. OMG.

I couldn't argue anymore. I said fine. Deduct the freaking total amount and activate my account. I want it done by 5. 5.20pm she called saying that it couldn't be done because my home branch did not receive the letter via fax. WHAT THE FUCK ? Use the fucking email for God's sake.

But again crying, well I was already crying before she called, I said fine. She said tomorrow early morning she will make sure it's settled. It's 11.12 am now. Account is still not activated. Been trying to call her but to no avail.

Why am I so stressed ? I don't make much to begin with. I live on my month to month salary. My salary this month got cut because I asked for 10 days unpaid leave in between the transfer so that I could focus on my exam. Which I think a waste because the paper was fucked up. On top of the cut, I gotta pay the car insurance which amount to another 1000.

So after everything I gotta pay, I gotta live on 5 bux a day if they deduct the whole outstanding. The fault is mine but OH MY GOODNESS JUST FUCK EVERYBODY ! Yeah its the fasting month. Whatever.

Wednesday, June 17, 2015

What does a baby need ?

Turning 21 weeks in 2 days so it's time to start making list for what we need to get for the baby and me, of course. The list below is based on my research and definitely not finalized. I'm blank when it comes to baby's needs.  I mean, how many is enough ? And when does the baby wear short sleeves or long sleeves.

So please, if you have any suggestions or tips please do let me know. I'll update here. The list could be used as a baby registry for the baby shower too, well, if my friends are planning for one that is :P

**Highlighted in green - The ones the husband thinks are necessary
**Highlighted in orange - I think can get it during confinement or after
**No highlight - Husband thinks not necessary (except the clothes, of course). Well for me, EVERYTHING is necessary.

Those that we have will be put a remark DONE!


Item
Age
Quantity
Remarks
1
Onesies (short sleeve)
Newborn
4

2
Onesies (short sleeve & long sleeve)
3 Months
4

3
Onesies (short sleeve)
6 Months
3

4
Sleepsuit (long pants/long sleeve)
Newborn
4

5
Sleepsuit (long pants/long sleeve)
3 Months
4

6
Sleepsuit (long pants/long sleeve)
6 Months
3

7
Shirts (short sleeve & long sleeve)
Newborn
4

8
Shirts (short sleeve & long sleeve)
3 Months
5

9
Shirts (short sleeve & long sleeve)
6 Months
5

10
Pants/Leggings
Newborn
4

11
Pants/Leggings
3 Months
5

12
Pants/Leggings
6 Months
5

13
Hats
Newborn
3

14
Socks
Newborn
5

15
Socks
3 months
5

16
Mittens
Newborn
5

17
Blankets/swaddle
-
3
IG: Babyandkidscollection- Carter’s 4pcs set-RM40
18
Bengkung baby
-
3

19
Handkerchiefs

5

20
Bibs

5

21
Towels

3

22
Baby bath tub

1

23
Baby shampoo

1
 Buds Head To Toe Cleanser
- RM42
24
Baby soap

1

25
Diapers

3

26
Changing Pad

1
 Around RM25
27
Wipes

10

28
Baby rash cream

1
 Drapolene
29
Baby hair brush

1

30
Baby cot

1
 Baby cot borrow from Ji & Meen
31
Mattress & Waterproof mattress covers

1

32
Comforter/Pillow

1
RM165
34
Car seat

1
 Maxicosi Fabriofix
BabyJaya, No 12A, Jalan SS21/62, DU - 0377268521
RM599
Littlewhiz.com – RM729
Lazada – RM799
2nd hand – RM450
35
Stroller

1
 Quinny Zapp Xtra2
36
Nail clippers

1

37
Baby thermometer & Nasal Aspirator

1

38
Playpen

1

39
Diaper bag

1

40
Night light

1

41
Breast pump

1

42
Nursing pillow

1

43
Nursing Bra (8 mths)

4

44
Lotion for sore nipples

1

45
Bottles with nipples
Avent - Newborn set
1
Babyland shopper 0133511189 (RM155)
46
Baby cupboard

1

47
Cotton swabs

3

48
Nursing cover

1

49
Bottle sterilizer
Avent
1
DONE!
50
Bottle warmer
Avent
1
Babyland shopper RM250
Warranty 2 yrs